Gay, Lesbian, Bi-Sexual & Transgender Issues with Aging and Disability

On a recent vacation in Palm Springs, CA I had the pleasure of meeting with some delightful people involved with a Senior Center that welcoms gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and transgender (GLBT) folks. Being forever naive to life's twists and turns, I presumed incorrectly that aging and disability invoked somewhat universal issues across the board. I neglected to recognize that as people age and are disabled, there is still stereo-typing and ignorance to deal with in addition to seeking the supportive services a person needs. One concept that helped to open my eyes is the fact that while a person's circle of informal supports often sets the pace for receiving services in the community as we age, GLBT folks often have had to piece together that informal network over the years due to the sad fact that biological families have not accepted who they are and family ties have been strained or broken. A GLBT friendly senior center takes on new and multi-dimensional importance. GLBT senior housing becomes even more important to create the warm and welcoming home...a place to just "BE" that many people take for granted. Somehow living with disability or aging with limitations hits us over the head to appreciate the small things in life, like a hug, a wonderful meal with friends, expressing love and all the things that characterize a home. Why should anyone have to censor joy, pleasure of life and love especially in the senior years?

Should You Give Up Your Life to Care for An Elderly Parent or Relative?

Not an easy question and no easy answers. Lots of people struggle with this every day. Some find they can arrange for services and supports and still carry on with their own daily life without much disruptions. On the other hand, many take leave from a career or family to provide care at home instead of admit an elderly relative or spouse to a nursing facility. What are the sacrifices and what are the rewards? When do you draw the line and step back into your life? What are the considerations that helped you decide on a good plan.....Or what were the events that made it clear the price was too high?

If Not Nursing Home, What Should Long-Term Care Look Like??

States, consumers, families and advocates alike say they would avoid going to a nursing home. But if you or your loved one needs help with chronic conditions and daily activities, what does that care look like and who should pay for it? How many hours? Who should help? How much should it cost?